What I learnt in my 20'S that I won't forget in my 30's...

I learnt so much in my 20's...

and I really hate to say it, but most of these lessons were a bunch of harsh realities. It was like a divorce with my former self.

Writing this, has been a bit like therapy in itself. It has allowed me to express my thoughts and process how I feel about the Writing this, has been a bit like therapy in itself. It has allowed me to express my thoughts and process how I feel about the last decade. If anything, I recommend everyone reading this post to do the same. When we share what we have learnt we inspire and guide not only ourselves but one another. 

Take some time to write down important things that you have learnt during the last "milestone" in your life. I hope it changes your life as much as it has changed mine. So here it goes. Here's the top life lessons from my 20's that also act as a bible as I go through my 30's. 

Invest in your goals

The most successful people we all know are the ones who didn't give up and stayed true to the hustle. Whether it be an educational course to help you professionally, a life coach to help you personally or a trainer to help you get fit, however you feel you need to improve in life, make it happen. Spending money to help you to achieve your goals is always going to be money well spent, but we all sit on it all too often. 

Some choices and risks will be especially difficult but if it is what you really what you want want, then the work will be worth it. Investing in yourself is powerful. It will ultimately help you to achieve your goals in the long term, be comfortable with who you are and most importantly help you to achieve. Whatever and however you do, don't wait until tomorrow to set yourself a Bucket List. This blog was on mine.

Meeting your own expectations is enough

It's all about living in the now. You are not defined by your decision to get married or have children. Society as a whole has a lot of expectations on women but there is no need to live up to an ideology you simply don't believe in. Take that new job even if no one else thinks you should. While investing in some choices may appear to be risky and borderline challenging, it's so important to rise to it. If you truly want it, you will achieve it.

And by the way, you also don't have to explain yourself; how you dress, how you speak, how you live and what your beliefs are. Trying to please others all the time is tiring and actually really stressful. 

Evaluate your relationships

Breakaway from situations and people you cant control and take control of your own happiness through doing the things you love with the people who give you 100%. There is really no real good reason to hold on to past relationships, if they make you feel anxious or unhappy.

Cherish those that are there. The older I get the more I go through (both good and bad). Make yourself aware of where you stand in relationships and who is going to be there, for major milestones. 

At the same time, be the best version of you. Someone who will be there through thick and thin, that can be trusted and relied on through the good, the bad and the ugly. 

Know your worth

Confidence is a reflection of how you perceive yourself. The sooner we all realise that we determine our own self-worth, the better it is for you and everyone around you. Validation doesn't come from those around you and if you aren't aware of how amazing you are, this will reflect in how others treat you and ultimately how you treat yourself. So recognise and celebrate who you are. Love yourself wholly and fully embrace all your talents and achievements. You will attract good things because self-awareness will allow you to maximise on your strengths.

You're not alone, but it's ok to be.

Having time to myself has been on the top of my priority list for some time. Spending some time alone, allows me process my thoughts, reboot the brain and generally unwind. It gives me a sense of exploration and has allowed to me explore what is important to me without interruption.  Having religiously spent time by myself doing things that I love, I have unleashed many desires and possibilities. I've made better choices about who I want to spend time with and I have also started to appreciate relationships in my life a lot more.

Don't over plan

This point has nothing to do with your life goals. Of course setting your sights high and something to work towards is super important.

I cannot deal with plans being made ten weeks in advance. A couple of weeks, fine. Important dates - like weddings, fine. But asking me to go for dinner with you in two months time is just drastic. Chill out a bit friends.

Enjoy life, make plans but don't get disillusioned. No one is ever too busy for a quick coffee with someone they love. If there are people in your life that make excuses, then you've just got to realise that you're just not a priority.

I choose to be happy

Even when it gets tough, try and look at the positive aspects of your like and not the negative. This is of course easier said than done, but happiness really is a mindset that only I can control.

We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others, dreaming about unrealistic ideologies that sometimes it's important to just take a step back and, simply see, that your glass is actually half full.